Why breakup is the best decision in a bitter relationship.
Why breakup is the best decision in a bitter relationship.
By N Nikhil Raj. May 08.
Not all people get what they expect from their partner. We all are different and may have different expectations.
Not all relationships succeed in the harsh journey of Life.
As much as it might be hard to admit, sometimes people are better off apart than together. While the early days following a breakup are rarely easy, at some point the two people involved need to admit they did all they could do and realize that their breakup was the right choice.
As much you may have wanted it to work, sometime you need to realize you did all you could do, then throw your hands up in the air. This isn't giving up; it's admitting that things are, perhaps, not meant to be.
"Upon reviewing the history of your relationship, [a sign that it was the right choice to break up is that it's] clear that separating was your last and only option," bestselling author and relationship expert Susan Winter tells Bustle. You tried, and tried again, to create a shift in the relationship dynamics. No matter what effort you applied, the end-result remained the same. You were left with a suboptimal relationship.
It's in these cases that you shouldn't be hard on yourself. Even when it feels like all is lost, it still means you tried to fix something that could no longer be fixed. And that's OK.
From being cheated on, being lied to, or having your privacy violated, there are many forms of betrayal in a relationship. While some are able to forgive and recover, others cannot. If you're in the latter group, then, yes, it was good you broke up.
If someone you are dating or involved in a long-term relationship with has betrayed you in a way that you cannot get past — cheating, lying, addiction — then it is time to end the relationship for your own emotional health," Lori Bizzoco, founder of relationship analysis website Cupid's Pulse, tells Bustle. "Remember, ending a relationship with someone is a personal decision and only you know what is healthy or unhealthy for you.
Relationships aren't just about working together for the sake of the relationship, but working on each other individually for the sake of the relationship too.
A sign your breakup was the right choice is realizing "that your fear of being alone kept you in the relationship, not because of your partner's qualities. If you can look back and see that you stuck around for unhealthy reasons, then pat yourself on the back. You did good by leaving.
Not every relationship is able to or even meant to stand the test of time. And that's OK. You just want to get to a point where you can realize that, instead of feeling bad about your decision.
Now ask yourself why breaking up should be the best option? How does it help?
What are the signs that you need to realize that you are in Bitter relationship?
1. More fights, fewer talks
Couples who believed “arguing should not be tolerated” were less satisfied and more aggressive, and the female partners were more depressed.
2. Abusive relationship
If you are in a mentally, physically and emotionally abusive relationship and you continually suffer ill doings of your partner, then you shouldn’t continue with that relationship. Because for any relationship to survive, mutual respect towards each other is inevitable. And there is a certain limit that both of the partners need to take care of.
3. Never on the same page
If opinions and viewpoints have turned intense which is making it hard for both of you to be on the same page. Also, If both of your life goals, vision, expectations are out of mutual alignment, and you rarely agree on the same thing, then it’s impossible to sustain in that relationship for long.
4. Guilty of cheating
If you caught your partner red-handed, or if you are certain that your partner is cheating on you, there’s nothing left to save in that relationship after this breach of trust.
f your relationship has reached to a point where these things have lost their importance and you can’t remember when’s the last time your partner uttered those three golden words to you, if you can’t recall when you felt the warmth between you two, if almost everything has turned dull and plain with time, and if you feel it’s too late to bring back the spark, then it’s time to let loose and move on.
6. Reliving past(Sadly, that was my case)
Getting over the past is a tough job. Parting ways physically is not the hard part, letting it go mentally is what takes ages sometimes. Everyone has their own fair share of heart-breaks and have spent a huge chunk of time to get over it. Some of us are still stuck between a war of heart and mind.
7. Forced emotions
You may act ‘in love’ in front of your partner because you don’t want to be the one hurting him/her. “ They are nice people, they are in love with you and hurting them would be a sin,” you might think. But, for how long you can fake it? Can you do it for your whole life? I fear so. Filling the gaps between “the acting of love” and “in love” is impossible.
8. High on stress
If in your relationship, rather than creating happiness together, you are constantly struggling to even get a little smile on your face, maybe you are unlocking the wrong lock with the right key. Or, right lock with the wrong key.
9. Distance makes you happier than closeness
Some people find joy when they are not around their partner. The distance makes more sense than closeness. They turn blank and find it hard to even initiate a conversation with their partner. They fall out of words and expressions and have to fake around their partner just because they are too sweet to speak the truth
10. Constant attraction towards other people
when you find yourself constantly attracted to other people but not to your partner. It becomes a point of consideration when you lose your focus and
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